You’ve been hurt for the last time. You’ve drawn the line to end the aggravation. You declare, “No More!”
Should You Give Them Another Chance?
Now they are sincerely asking for another chance. “I’ll do anything”, they cry out with a trembling voice. Their hurt moves you. What if they really mean it this time? How can you be sure?
Keep these 5 points in mind:
- You don’t have to give them another chance. Remembering this point first can save you a lot of unnecessary thinking and unnecessary conversations.
- If they are sincere, they will keep their promises. If they said they will stop yelling, then they will stop. If they said they will go to therapy, then they will schedule appointments and go (with or without you).
- They won’t pressure you. They will give you plenty of time and space.
- You will notice more thoughtful listening. Their attitude will be humble, not arrogant or pouting.
- You should see an 80% to 90% improvement in areas of their behavior that you had previously complained about, maybe even 100%.
Mark Webb is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist in private practice at South Georgia Psychiatric and Counseling Center in Valdosta. He is the author of How To Be A Great Partner. Mark has been in the field of helping individuals and couples since 1986. He has a vast amount of experience and he can have a very positive impact on your life and your relationship. If you are looking for individual or marriage counseling, please call his office in Valdosta, Georgia and his staff will help you set up an appointment.
South Georgia Psychiatric and Counseling Center
2704 N. Oak St. Blg B-3
Valdosta, Georgia 31602